DGHE & Coronavirus

Friendship

Jan 21, 2021 | General

 

Can you believe it, it’s just over a year since we heard about Covid-19 for the first time and what a life-changing journey it has sent us on! We couldn’t have imagined most of what has happened to us over this time in our wildest dreams.

While things have been difficult, not all of it has been bad. For many of us the one thing that has remained constant and true throughout is our friendships: be that one friend, a few friends or many – and maybe some new ones. Lots of people have got to know their neighbours for the first time during this last year.

I was recently given a little token that said: ‘…Friendship isn’t about who you’ve known the longest. It’s about who walked into your life, said ‘I’m here for you’ and proved it…..’. Many friends are of course for life but many come and go throughout our lives, serving a particular need at the time and are no less valuable or loved because they were only around for a short while.  

They say friends are like the family you choose – although unlike family they are solely joy-based! In our friends we look for those who share similar qualities and interests, people to whom we can reveal our real selves without fear of judgement or rejection.

Friendship is an opportunity to love, to learn about yourself, to mature as a human being, and to open up to the full experience of life. Good friends are so important to our mental health and to the quality of our lives.  Like any relationship, friendships require work - we have to nurture them as well as be nurtured by them.

Not everyone is outgoing and has lots of friends, no matter what age or sex you are. You may be shy/anxious and find it too hard to build/maintain lasting friendships. Even if you have loads of friends and support, even if you are living with family or housemates, you may still be feeling isolated and lonely this year, especially now we are locked down again here in the UK.

Helpguide.org has a great section on making good friends  and offers help for when you’re feeling isolated, alone and disconnected from friends and family

 I’ll leave you with a little poem about friendship by Jessica R Dallinger that you might like:

If you're feeling down; turn your frown upside down.
Put a smile on your face; take the world in your embrace.
Ask for a little help from the man up above.
And remember you have your best friend's love.

 

Thank you,

Ms. Fiona Nouri,

Head of Student Experience & Wellbeing